What trauma really is. (Hint: it doesn’t have to be something big)

I’ve noticed that sometimes we minimize our experiences because we hear about all of the big traumas.

You might think:

“I don’t think I’ve had trauma.”
“Other people have it worse.”
“Maybe my struggles aren’t valid.”

If that’s you, I want to say this clearly:

You don’t need a “big trauma” to carry the imprint of overwhelm in your body.

Trauma isn’t just the worst thing that ever happened to you.
It can be the absence of what you needed—safety, attunement, permission to be fully yourself.

You may have had a loving family.
You may have had a “good life.”

And still, your nervous system may have adapted in ways that now show up as:

– Always needing to hold it all together
– Struggling to rest, even when you’re tired
– Overgiving, then resenting it
– Feeling anxious for “no reason”
– Staying busy to avoid stillness
– Feeling numb, disconnected, or “off”

These aren’t flaws.
They’re protective patterns.
Your body’s way of keeping you safe when something felt too much, too soon, or for too long.

The good news?
These patterns can shift.

Not through force.
But through gentle relationship with yourself.
With care. With presence. With support.

That’s what Coming Home to Your Body is here for. If this work is calling you, I’d be honored